I find that as one grows in emotional maturity, one is better able to clearly distinguish a feeling from another. And then again what is often spoken to people about one’s feelings is that which is acceptable to society, one’s family, circle of friends, workplace, etc. Each community has its own rules of engagement and socializing and one remembers what rule fits what community. Experts refer to this ability as flexibility or adaptability. But then I understand why increasingly people have only their therapists and medical doctors – whom they pay for that service – to tell the truth to without the fear of judgment and discrimination; which is, yes, sad and defeats every human being’s desire and struggle to become authentic.